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last updated 14th May 2020
If you are attracted to neither male nor female, you are liberatedPrabhupada turned into an abandoned field where we saw many peacocks -- the resplendent males as well as the plainer females.
Guru dasa remarked, "Among the birds, the males are more beautiful than the females."
"Among the humans the women are," said Prabhupada. "And among the Mohammedans a man with a big beard and mustache is considered very beautiful."
"Then we are the least beautiful," said Guru dasa. "We have no hairs."
"Yes, nobody likes us," said Prabhupada, smiling. "We are neither male or female. No one knows who we are. It is very good. If you are attracted to neither male nor female, you are liberated."
Prabhupada had everyone laughing, but even the humorous moment was deep with self-realization. As I hurried to keep my servant's place at Prabhupada's side, I felt all my desires for seeing Vrndavana through his eyes were being fulfilled. He was truly leading us into the meaning of the dhama. If only I could stop dwelling on bodily and mental considerations and simply surrender to his service.
- From the "Life with the Perfect Master" by HH Satsvarupa Dasa Goswami
It has its shastra like KAma sutras, which today have been very much over estimated, mostly taken out of context and over emphaised for sensual pleasures only, minimising functionality, and cultural values associated with the adherants of such sutras - a little like the accepting the egg producing rear end of the chicken while neglecting to fulfill the demands of the mouth end. If one carefully studies the KAma sutra one will find many restrictions, and guidelines meant to protect the chaste and faithful, while fulfilling the needs and desires of the masses. I had to study it during my time at University studying Social Anthropology. That is a whole different discussion, that thankfully I'm not giving energy toward getting involved in.
Here we are attempting to address some of these topics from a Krishna conscious perspective, and frankly have no interest in any other misdirected understanding or attempt to enjoy or suffer any other directive for which these activities have become known today.
Srimad Bhagavad Gita gives the
bottom line on sex, where Lord Sri Krishna asures His devotee, dharmäviruddho
bhüteshu kämo ’smi bharatarshabha - "I am sex life which
is not contrary to religious principles, Oh Lord of the Bhäratas [Arjuna]".
(Bhagavad Gita 7:1.)
"Kandarpa is the sex desire for presenting
good sons; therefore Kandarpa is the representative
of Krsna.
Sometimes sex is engaged in only for sense
gratification; such sex
does not represent Krsna. But sex for the
generation of good
children is called Kandarpa and represents
Krsna."
(His Divine Grace A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada. Bhagavad Gita
10:28.purport.)
Before readers comment, and put forward what form of sex is preferable to them, the fact needs to be stated that choice or preference in sense gratification as mentioned in the above quoted extract has nothing to do with this page. This page is simply about what is presented by shastra, and what is upheld by pure Vaishnava Acharyas. Certainly other ideas and ideals may be found as there are 18 Puranas, some in the mode of goodness, some in the mode passion, and some in the mode of ignorance, thus all manner of things can be supported in Vedik culture. Having said that, let us look to see what is conducive to becoming detached from material entanglement, and to become attached to Lord Sri Krishna, and then aspire to follow that path.
In that regard, we have some nice links here that will help one to aim in that Sattvik pantha (direction of the mode of goodness) at least.
Brahmacharya - celibacy:
Celibacy
an option or conscious decision for a higher goal:
Brahmacharya
- Celibacy:
Teens
and Celibacy by Urmila Devi Dasi
Celibacy—Exquisite
Torture, or a “Yes to God”?
Eight
aspects of brahmacharya, by Sridhar Swami, the Bhagavatam commentator.
Brahmacharya
II - Rama Krishna mission - good article
The
Value of Continence - a scientific look at celibacy
More
articles and links to Celibacy here:
“Any
type of monogamy devoid of celibacy is useless.” - Sita Pati dasa
Langota - brahmin underwear: understanding its function
"Repression
of the impulses results in paranoid" - Macho misogynists:
The
syndrome of Bhut graha - false renunciation - the eccentric results:
The Four Regulative Principles of Freedom
Immortal Longings by Ravindra Swarup dasa
Hypocrisy - Srila Prabhupad speaks out "Bachelor daddy"
Human Sexuality is complex (an interesting broad presentation......on Sexuality)
Illicit sex outside of marriage is illicit sex with a capital ‘I’ and illicit sex within marriage is the small ‘i’ by Chaitanya Charan das
Importance of marriage for women - from Mahabharata
Pay
attention to whom you share your intimate energy with (Article)
Austerity and Pleasure: Managing Our Sexuality While Waiting for Transcendence - by Umila devi dasi ACBSP
Marriage and Marriage Compatibility:
The
Meaning of Marriage - by HDG Srila A.C.Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupad
Sacred Marriage - practical advice
Overview of the essential principles of the Griha sutras.
An
Ethnography Involving Insights And Details For Compatibility Or Incompatibility
Of Marriage
According
To Muhurtha Shastra, And Relative Corressponding Works, Involving Scientific
Research
And
Observer Participation.
Principles
of Vedik Marriage Synastry According to Muhurtha Astrology and Kuta System
Article on Arranged Marriage submitted by His Grace Madhavananda Prabhu
Vivaha samskara talk - "Give more than you take" spoken by Indradyumna Swami - June 3, 2006
Sex with meat-eaters off the menu
On Marriage and Divorce - by HH Radhanath Swami
Marriage related pages by Radhanath Swami
Family Life: Srila Prabhupada and Srila Bhaktivinoda Thakura
speak on various aspects of........
The
secret of successful long term Krishna conscious householder life
Ideal
families --- the verdict of all Acharyas
The
Sum and Substance of Progressive and Positive Family Life in Krishna Consciousness
While living in this material world - by Srila Bhaktivinod Thakur 1896.
How to be an Ideal Husband by HH Radhanath Swami
Help ! My Husband Is Not a Devotee ! by Rohininandan prabhu
How to bring into this world "Ray of Vishnu" good quality devotional children?
Birth Of A Devotee - by Srila Bhaktisiddhanta Saraswati Thakur Prabhupada
Finding
What Works for the Long Haul—for the Institution of Marriage and for Marriages
(reprinted from ISKCON Communication
Journal #91 September 2001)
Family Matters - Family
Matters – part one
The Importance of Understanding
Family Dynamics
Family Matters – part
two
Dealing with Illicit Sex
Family Matters - part
three
Spiritual Lovers
Growing together as a couple (not written by devotees)
Someone sent me several nice quotes about marriage etc that may be of use or interest to you.
The Disposition of women - from http://www.hinduism.org.za/women.htm
Vedic View of Women - by HH Bhakti Raghava Goswami
Women in Vedic Culture by Sri Nandanandana dasa ACBSP (Stephen Knapp)
How do women benefit from wearing sattvik ornaments?
A Tribute to Women in Hinduism - how women previously were venerated in Vedic times
Women in Sri Vaishnavam By V Sadagopan
Women and the quality of Shyness - from Hari Sauri prabhu's Diary
Women and the Laws of Manu - Q & A with Swami B. V. Tripurari
"Where women are respected, the demigods hang around there; where they are not respected, all actions are fruitless". Manu smriti 3:56
Are Women Duplicitous and Selfish According to Srimad Bhagavatam? (Part 1) 24th Oct 2014
Women not barred from learning Vedas
Garbhadana
Samkara - The Difference Between Good Progeny and Varna-sankara.
Birth
of a Devotee by Srila Bhaktisiddhanta Saraswati Thakur Prabhupad
Vaishnava Family Resources web site
Top
ten myths of divorce - worth a read
Effects
of Divorce
Divorce
‘Health Scars Permanent’
Unplanned Unwanted Children - by HDG Srila A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupad
Why do men ignore nagging wives? It's all science
Understanding, the new mantra - Couples, priests adapt ceremony to comprehend meaning of rituals
TEN PRINCIPLES OF MARRIAGE AND FAMILY IN SOCIETY by The Witherspoon Institute 2006
Relationships in the grihasta ashram - presented by HH Bhakti Vidya Purna Swami ACBSP
Vaishnava
Family Resources - created by the Grihastha Vision Team, is for
Vaishnava Families
many useful articles, and
tips, well worth a surf
Schooling
Krishna's Children, Teens and Celibacy - by Urmilla Devi dasi ACBSP
The position of Women in the Sri-Vaishnava Sampradaya
Sexual Liberation Is About Slavery
On Child Marriage - from "Glimpses of Traditional Indian Life," by HH Bhakti Vikas Swami
Role of Vedic Women in Ancient India - Subhamoy Das
Material & Spritual - Finding the Ballance - Mother Urmila devi dasi ACBSP
On Calling Women Prabhu - Sivarama Swami (Why is this in practice in some parts of ISKCON, and where was it introduced?)
Sexual Orientation - Graysexual, Pansexual, Zucchini, Skpliosexual
The Joint Family:
The Micro, Meso, Exo, and
Macro stuctrual systems society
A
Social Study of the Joint Family Tradition:
Chanakhya Pandit on the Joint
Family (from Kautiliya's Artha shastra)
A
Social Study of the Benefits of the Joint Family System
In
Defense of the Joint Family System
A
Social Study of the Benefits of the Joint Family System
Kinds
of Friends
A
Social Model for ISKCON - by a subcommittee of the Indian Continental
Committee
Sri
Sri Sva-Niyama-Dvadasakam - "12 Verses of My Own SELF-IMPOSED REGULATIVE
PRINCIPLES" - Srila Bhaktivinod Thakura
Madh-Mama_ The psychology of the Indian Mother-in-law (worth a read)
Health in the family: PMS, PMT
Equal
Rights
Feminism's
devolution from hoaxers to whores - by Kathleen Parker
Article from the New York Times called Contra-Contraception By RUSSELL SHORTO
Emotional
Wiring Different in Men and Women
Evolution
of the Swimsuit - Jessica Ray swimsuit deseigner talks of modesty
Modesty:
A Different View from Young Men
The
Modesty Video - a girl's perspective
Sharing a bed - a disruptive practice
Breastfeeding:
Good For Babies, Mothers, And The Planet
School
Trains Women to be Submissive, Ideal Wives!
Recommended information for pregnancy, birth, baby and school for devotees - Sudevi dasi
Mother's
diet during pregnancy alters baby's DNA
Pumsavanam
samskara
Men
being discriminated against: (Everyone needs to be aware of this -
its for REAL)
Introduction
to the Female Paedophile
Women
Who Sexually Abuse Children
Sex Attraction:
"Don't
Aggravate it" (simple terms to understand - nice lecture excerpt by
Srila Prabhupad)
Sex
is sex - Srila Prabhupad states as all sex is bondage, but "the sex
life between man and woman can be sanctified by marriage."
....speaking
on sex - vagina licking civilization
Dimensions of Good and Evil. - The Value of the Human Form
Sex and Love http://www.atmayogi.com/node/361
"Expert at rape" controversy explained nicely
Sex Desire - Urmilla Devi dasi ACBSP - CC_Madhya_Lila_08-138_-_Sex_Desire_-_2008-08-09_Villa_Vrindavan.Mp3
Delhi Gang-Rape and the modern Shurapanakha - by Iskcon Bangalore (12th Jan 2013)
Same sex relationships in ISKCON (YouTube Video) - Kadamba Kanan Swami
Sex: Licit & Illicit:
many
quotes from the books of Srila Prabhupada
Kinds
and Degrees of Illicit Sex by Urmila devi dasi
TV
stirs up teenagers' sexual drive: Study
Why
discriminate between different sex desire
Masturbation
- from Brahmacharya by Bhakti vikas swami
Do
all sperm have souls?
Pornography - Porn:
Toxic
Porn, Toxic Sex: A Real Look at Pornography
Real Misogyny: Is Porn really that Harmful?
Children damaged by 'diet of pornography' (article of May 30, 2013)
Prostitution - exploitation of women:
Prostitution (Vishya Kanya
- Eunuchs)
Talk Show host Oprah Winfrey
speaks out, with guest former Video Vixen Karrina Steffans & Pink -
Smart
Women on "Stupid Girls"
This is a must to see and
read, exposing the manipulative men who show women as cheap Hos, for our
daughters to follow.
Srila Prabhupada: “Prostitutes are necessary citizens for the proper upkeep of society”
Actual
Women's liberation - conversation with Srila A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami
Prabhupad
Women's
Liberation condemned by Srila Prabhupada:
More
sites establishing the Vedik perspective and exposing modern western
misconceptions that exploit
women through; women's rights,
so-called equality etc.
The He
Hormone - Article
THE
ABSURDITY OF FEMINISM - Article
Anti-Sexist sites ( a myriad
of sites from Critique
on Feminism - Men's
Rights - Child Abuse etc )
More
links to sites that expose the motive and intent and frailties of the Feminazi
partys'
Dominant Women don't get Husbands... - article
In
Scandinavia's equality central, an antifeminist backlash? (24th
December 2005)
A
female ex-gurukuli speaks out againt mundane feminism, and power tripping
men (see
her page)
Reactionary sites/pages
from hurting party's
What is the women's movement
for? ( some very good articles by deeply wounded men )
http://www.americanwomensuck.com/
http://www.nomarriage.com/
Articles explaining the differences in cultures and civilizations
Social
terrorism by so-called Women's Rights groups
On
Independence Day, 'harassed husbands' to demand 'freedom'
My Brief Against Feminism by Narada Priya devi dasi
Feminism,
Pt 1 - Defining the Feminist Problem
Feminism,
Pt 2 - The Death of Distinction
Feminism,
Pt 3 - Manhood Criminalized
Feminism,
Pt 4 - Women Sold Short
Feminism,
Pt 5 - Confessions of a G.I. Jane
Feminism,
Part 6 - Backlash
Feminism,
Pt 7 - What Now?
How feminism conned society, and other not-so-tall tales...
Women
Gurus In Kali Yuga? an article written by Govinda dasi ACBSP
(4th December 2012)
On
the Subject of Female Diksha Gurus by Phalini devi dasi ACBSP
(7th December 2012)
#WomenAgainstFeminism goes viral as people explain why they don't need feminism anymore (2014)
Homosexuality - Iskcon's
Policy on homosexuality spoken by Iskcon's Founder Acharya
- Srila
Prabhupada speaks on Homosexuaity
- All
Prabhupada's quotes on Homosexuality - it is
totally condemned for devotees -
worth reading if in doubt,
confused or inclined toward it, or pressured by
public opinion into accepting
it as normal for devotees, brahmins and
Vaishnavas to indulge
in. It is not. Make an informed spiritual
decision !!!
"Gay Monogamy" - Chaste Harlots by Danavir dasa Goswami ACBSP
- Female
Homosexuality condemned in Manu:
- Sex
is sex - Srila Prabhupad states homosexuality as 'This is very low
class'
- The Truth About Religion and Homophobia
- What the National Council of Hinduism (UK) says about Homosexuality
-Dealing
with and overcoming homosexuality practically in spiritual life - by
B.A. Paramdvaiti swami
-
the Rise of the Homosexual Priesthood in Catholic America: A Model
for Undermining Celibacy Within ISKCON?
-
How
to handle homosexuality and those with homosexual desires in simple terms
-
Discussions on gay marriage on Dipika:
(mirrored here)
- Jayadvaita Swami speaks out on Homosexuality
- "Down
on the farm" a lighthearted video snippet
Pederasty
or paederasty (homosexual relationship between an adult male and a
pubescent or adolescent male)
Dispelling Homophobia - By Yugala Kishor Dasa (Gainesville, Florida)
Hermaphrodites as a material condition and not a sexual preference:
The differences between Hermaphrodite, Inter-sexual and Trans-sexual, etc:
Inter-sexuality as different from, yet in some connected to Homosexuality and Trans-sexuality (Intersex Society of North America):
The "Ali" Transexuals - not a new fad to Hinduism (also here)
Tritiya
Prakriti - People of the third sex: (with introduction so as not to
mislead.....)
Eunuchs
Have No Lust for Women
Castration
Is Not Vedic (response
by a homosexual sympathizer GALVA propagandist)
Homosexuality
is not for Brahmins and Vaishnavas (also here by
author of Kaama sutra)
The
Pope agrees with us - homosexuals not suitable for priesthood.
Former Homosexual Says 'No One Is Born Gay'
Homosexuality
and totalitarianism - a clear vision of the situation
Same sex "marriage"
Condemnation
of Same Sex Marriage
How
same-sex marriage threatens liberty
Discussions on gay marriage
on Dipika:
(mirrored here)
Same
Sex Marriage: Legitimate or Illegitimate? - by Sankarshan dasa
Adhikary ACBSP
"Gay
Monogamy" - Chaste Harlots by Danavir dasa Goswami ACBSP
Same
sex relationships in ISKCON (YouTube Video) - Kadamba Kanan Swami
Same sex marriage discussion with Nara Narayan Vishvakarma dasa ACBSP and wife on Facebook
Other sexual inclinations:
Bondage - Sadomasochism
- simple terms
Incest (sex with mother
or daughter, or son
or father, etc)
Beastiality
Child Protection: See the Links HERE
Association for the Protection of Vaishnava Children:
Cyber
Sexual:
The Cyber Sex Addiction FAQ
and related topics
Masturbation - wasting of
the dhatus
How many are lured into Internet
pornography by predators seeking the young and innocent
This
is a true story from the Oprah Winfrey show, and how a pedophile ring was
smashed
On Child Marriage - from "Glimpses of Traditional Indian Life," by HH Bhakti Vikas Swami
Pedophiles
Want Same Rights As Homosexuals By Lauren Richardson
Whopping
Pedophilia 'Sexual Orientation' Error Sparks Right-Wing Freakout
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/10/31/pedophilia-sexual-orientation_n_4183482.html
Pedophiles
want same rights as homosexuals - original article by Jack Minor
Child Abuse: Seed
of Child Abuse
Neglect
Pedophilia
Sadly
- There are as many Women Pedofiles as Men:
Are We
Better Off? Ask The Children.
Abortion
The Ultimate In Child Abuse
More
Jewish women kill jewish children in the womb than were killed in the Holocaust
As Many Abortions As Possible by Mike W. Perry - reflections on Hitler and modern day policy
Selective Abortion: Ten Million Girls "Missing" In India
Freeze
Dried Fetus:
Several
mentions of fetal earrings ect
Fetus
key ring
See Domestic Violence section below:
No Question of Hating Women - HDG Srila A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupad
3
in 4 B.C. boys on street sexually exploited by women
Female
Sex Offenders - Female Sexual Predators
Domestic Violence:
Violence
in the home - in general - overview of DV & V
Women
Against Domestic Violence
Females
against Males - The other aggressor in domestic violence
Now
REALLY see the impact of the Kali yuga @ Men
and Domestic Violence Index
Rethinking Our Responses to Intimate Abuse
Reaction
To Women Abusing Men In Public & visa versa (Requires broadband)
On
Independence Day, 'harassed husbands' to demand 'freedom'
FaithTrust Institute - CENTER FOR THE PREVENTION OF SEXUAL AND DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Best Intentions — Dynamics of Spiritual Abuse by Bhaktavatsala dasa (German)
"Expert at rape" controversy explained nicely
Understanding the motive and intent behind the concept of child marriage
in India
Why
Child Marriage from Hindu Dharma
Vasectomy - What Happens to a Man’s Body After a Vasectomy?
http://www.quiverfull.com/birth_control/dangersofvasectomy.html
HELP:
Dealing
with Lust:
Heart to Heart Counselling
Service Bookshop 4 Recovering Sex-addicts:
http://www.sexaddict.com/Religion.html
Sex addiction - seeking help:
http://www.sexaddict.com/
Spiritual
Solutions - Understanding the entirity of the problem -
material exploitive engrossment !!!
...the solution to expose
people to the basics to our culture - harinam, deity worship, prasadam
- and display our social
responsibility.
ISKCON Watch
Restoring Srila Prabhupada's
ISKCON (NOT ritvik affiliated)
Report abuse World Wide (child
abuse, abuse of women, stealing of money, homosexuality, etc)
All reports are confidential
and if needed, reported to local police.
mailto:iskconwatch@aol.com
Future hope in hands of Iskcon: by Mr GL Mehta, former President of the South Taranaki (NZ) Indian Association.
10 Absolutely Insane Things People Used To Believe About The Female Body
Vaishnava Family Resources web site
http://www.vaisnavafamilyresources.org/index.htmlAssociation for the Protection of Vaishnava Children:
http://www.apvc.org/index.shtmlHealth and Spirituality Support Group Where I've Been, Where I Am Now, How I Proceed: An Historical Assessment of My Journey through Illness:
http://www.iskconboston.org/html/events/health2_2_2002.htmlIskcon Health & Spirituality Support Group: Accommodating Spirituality and Illness:
http://www.iskconboston.org/html/events/health_meeting6.htmlLaughter Therapy - its no joke:
http://www.healthlibrary.com/reading/yod/march98/news.htmSome tips from "How It Was" to How it can be!!!
http://www.webcom.com/~ara/iwr/14.1/cover/asitwas.shtml
Your expectation of seeing something is as rediculous as this picture.
Of course beastiality - sex with any other species than that of birth
is illict.
We do not take advantage of, or abuse or exploit animals in any way.
In
fact the opposite, we give protection to them http://turn.to/Vegetarianism